Last week I posted about a subject that touches all of us at some point. I decided to proactively look at ways that I can improve the balance in my home and in other areas. I will put down my vulnerable action and then I will make notes of how I will correct those behaviors.
The nature of my work requires that I work extra hours for a period of three months at a time. Everything at home is affected by this. I don’t always sit down with my family to discuss the changes in our normal routine and that is the main reason why I felt a bit off the track at home. In the very high-speed, high-stressed out world we are living in today it’s a constant struggle to find balance between work and family. Even our young children are finding it difficult to fit in all their demands from school. It’s always a battle between rugby practices, additional classes, tutoring of some kind and social activities.
“But even if you don’t have much control over the hours you have to work, you can ask yourself: In what other ways am I bringing greater enjoyment into my life?” Brooks says. “Focus your time and attention on things you can control.” (https://www.webmd.com/women/features/balance-life#1)
ACTION 1: A very important action that I have to put more focus on is planning my schedule with family and friends to help me recharge after a long day at work as well as on a weekend. To be fully engaged with my family I need to harmonize with their calendar. For us to find meaning, purpose and joy we have to link all our activities to spend quality time together. Spending time with my son and daughter individually can help us to catch up on their daily activities and feelings. Hubby and I can do simple things that can help us find closeness after periods away from each other. For example watching a movie together or having date nights. I have a rule when I step out of the office each day. I try not to bring up anything concerning work after hours. I make a point of it to cut myself off from work related issues and enjoy the time away from the office. Family is everything and we must make the most of it. One thing you can be sure of…our next family holiday is going to be off the hook.
We need to understand that what works for some people does not necessarily work for others.
What does it mean to be balanced?
“To me, it means that you have a handle on the various elements in your life and don’t feel that your heart or minds are being pulled too hard in any direction. More often than not, you feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated.”(https://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-tips-to-create-a-balanced-life/)
I’d say a calculated way to keep the balance between work and family would be to:
- Prioritize –what is the most important thing to do to move towards what you want to achieve?
- Focus – what is causing distractions in your day? You might have to close a door, put off your phone or take time out.
- Create a schedule – Plan and write it down. Keep within your values and what is significant for you.
I think we can have that bit sink in for a while. I will be back with this topic in a final installment on how to balance that budget…